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The First Move - Men's Health
July 2007

Let's pretend you're in a movie.  It's the scene where you've spotted a pretty girl across a crowded room and decided to make a move.  As you shuffle nervously over to where she's seated, sweat is beginning to form patches under your arms, your hair looks like new real estate for low-flying birds and your cologne could stun flies in mid-flight.  As you move into target range, your vocal chords are tightening and your heart is pounding.  Okay, we'll freeze the frame right there.

Obviously this scene has a predictable conclusion.  The moment she turns to greet you, you're a goner.  It can be salvaged, however, with a bit of preparation and careful editing. 

Let's begin with your attitude, because in an age of casual hooks ups, f*ck buddies, confusion about gender roles and a pervasive attitude of "what you see is what you get", it seems many blokes have forgotten how to impress a girl....."Women are drawn to confident men," observes Trudy Gilbert, Director of high-end matchmaking service Elite Introductions.  "Even slight arrogance is better than insecurity."  Combine that with a bit of chivalry and you're starting to put together a formidable package.  If you're on a blind date, for example, "pour the wine and pay for the meal.  If you make an effort to woo her you'll stand out from the competition," Gilbert advises.  "Women equate being a gentleman with sophistication and maturity."

A confident gentleman is also less likely to commit the cardinal sin of communication: talking about yourself too much.

By Ben Jhoty