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Tips on what not to talk about on your first date

Don't underestimate the importance of a first date as it can either make or break the relationship. Far too many times people think the first date is something to get out of the way being the first step to other dates and then onto a relationship. But what you say and what you do on a first date could decide whether or not you'll be involved in a relationship.

As the Director of Professional Matchmaker Agency Elite Introductions, I asked several members what it was about a person that made them not want to go out with them a second time. I quickly discovered that it was often what a person said that made all the difference. Below you will find a short list of five things you should never say on a date if you hope to have a second date:

1 - Never talk about your ex's - your ex-husband, ex-wife, ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. This is not first date material. I would even go so far as to say under no circumstances is it appropriate to mention an ex.

No 2 - Never talk about your problems on a first date. Don't talk about your divorce, your work or your financial problems. It seems a common topic to discuss today but this virtually guarantees there will be no second date.

No 3 - Never talk about the future of your relationship. This is only the first date, there is no relationship yet. Any talk about the future of the relationship can be very intimidating. It also makes the person you're with get the feeling that you're too needy. Let the relationship develop overtime and not on the first date.

No 4 - Never talk about sex, politics or religion. This is a classic rule and there is some logic to it. Steer clear of these topics as you don't want to find yourself in a heated discussion on the first date.

No 5 - Never dominate the conversation by talking incessantly about your interest, work or anything at all. Unless your date has the same passion as you do, she will not appreciate it being the only topic of conversation all night. Also, on a first date, you should be getting to know each other and you should talk about a variety of different things.

Following these 5 tips is a start. They seem obvious but you'd be surprised how many people don't follow them.

Lucy, 35, Lawyer,

Divorced and with one child

was looking for an ambitious, intelligent, outgoing and good humoured partner. She met Daniel, a Senior Executive and 7 months later they got engaged.

"Trudy is the consummate professional. I found her to be responsive, warm, an excellent communicator (including being a good listener) and discrete. It was a pleasure dealing with her and I really appreciated the attentive and personal service that she provided. Trudy introduced me to the wonderful man who is now my fiance! For all of these reasons, I would not hesitate to recommend her services."

- (Met Daniel June 2011,
Engaged January 2012).