Being the Director of Elite Introductions, quite often clients will ask for my advice on what they are doing wrong on their dates. I will introduce them to an eligible man or lady who they want to see again and they don’t call for a second date. Why? Maybe you, like them, are guilty of committing one of the 10 common dating mistakes below;
1) Be excited and enthuse others
This is a crucial tip – excited people are exciting. We love to be around people who inspire us and what is more inspiring than being with someone who is passionate about their work, their hobby or anything at all. Excited people are interesting and we are drawn to learn more.
2) Be interested in sharing details of your personal life and learn more about your date
If you don’t open up and show them who you really are, how are they going to get to know you? Further, why would they share things about themselves if you don’t? Ask questions, be interested and always be sincere.
3) Be relaxed and honest during your date
If you are tense or evasive, your date may not trust you, will not be comfortable on the date or be keen to go on a second date with you. If you are relaxed and honest, your personality will shine through and impress your date enough to entice them to be interested in a second date.
4) Wear something appropriate and feel comfortable in it
Women should not dress too sexy for a first date which means no plunging necklines and no short skirts. Men should try to avoid looking too casual and turn up as if they have just come from the beach. Guys, stubbies and thongs are a big turn off!
5) Don’t reveal everything about yourself on the first date
Half the fun of dating is getting to know the person. It is important to be yourself but first dates are very much like interviews – a controlled release of information where you paint yourself in a favourable light. I am not saying to lie but rather to limit. Create an air of mystery so that he/she will want to see you again.
6) Don’t underestimate the importance of eye contact
Eye contact is very important when dating, and a critical flirting tip. So many emotions, especially those dealing with interest, are conveyed through the eyes. Make sure you get the right balance as too much eye contact will make them feel uncomfortable and not enough will make them think you are not interested.
7) Don’t have preconceived ideas or be too guarded
If you are apprehensive or have prejudices you will find that you will not have a good time. On the other hand if you are truly optimistic and are looking forward to your first date, you and your date will most likely wind up having a great time. Your optimism and attitude will be infectious and will ensure that you both you have a great time and are eager for a second date.
8) Don’t show your negative side by complaining
Don’t do anything that will create a bad impression by complaining or whinging. Be positive. This is your chance to make a good impression and you won’t do that by showing your negative side.
9) Don’t talk about your ex
This really needs no further comment. Quite simply, this can be an immediate turn off and a total mood kill. Do not bring up the ex as there is simply no need.
10) Don’t go to a movie
Sitting together for 2 hours in the dark where you don’t talk is not a good first date choice. For a first date, try going out for a drink or a casual dinner which creates a relaxing, no pressure environment to get to know each other.
Many singles find themselves nervous and apprehensive on a first date because they worry about how they will get through it and whether or not this first date will lead to future dates. It’s okay to be nervous about a first date but if you follow my advice above, it will help you not only to survive a first date but will help guarantee you a second date.